Love and hate have long been seen as two sides of the same coin—inseparable, forever entangled in human emotion. Yet in today’s world, hate feels omnipresent while love seems hollow, often performed rather than felt. This imbalance raises a deep question: why has something as sacred as love become so artificial?
It appears that a drastic distortion has taken place in the realm of love, and ironically, it was carried out by those with the best intentions. The true destroyer of love may not be hatred at all—but the continuous teaching of love itself.
The Authenticity of Hate
It may sound uncomfortable, but hate—when it arises—is still authentic. It comes uninvited, raw, and unfiltered. There is no pretension in it. Love, on the other hand, has been domesticated, moralized, and commanded into existence. In this process, it has lost its natural depth. The love we see expressed in the world today often feels mechanical, polite, and socially correct—lacking the wild pulse of genuine affection.
The Great Manipulation of the Heart
For centuries, religions, educators, and rulers have sung the same refrain: love your neighbor, love your parents, love your enemy, love God. The repetition of these ideals is not innocence—it is control. Why should something as spontaneous as love need instruction? Why should it be commanded?
The truth is, authentic love frightens organized systems. When a person truly loves, they cannot be manipulated or controlled. They cannot be made to hate on command, nor can they be taught obedience cloaked as virtue. Such a person belongs not to the crowd but to existence itself. Society, built upon predictability and order, finds this dangerous.
Conditioning Over Connection
From birth, the conditioning begins. Parents, teachers, and traditions tell us how to love, whom to love, when to love. The freedom of love—its wild, unpredictable force—is replaced with etiquette, moral duty, and ideology. Gradually, love ceases to be an overflowing feeling and becomes a performance, a societal expectation masquerading as emotion.
The Wild Current and the Dam
Authentic love is like a river in flood—overflowing, unpredictable, and untamed. Society, terrified of its force, builds dams to control it. The flow is redirected, labeled “safe,” and renamed “civilized love.” But what remains behind those walls is no longer alive—it is stagnant.
True love cannot be taught because it is not a lesson; it is a happening. It arises when one drops control, drops the fear of being vulnerable, and allows life to move through them freely.
When love returns to its natural state—without command, without conditioning—it reconnects us to existence in its purest form. And only then can we rediscover the essence society tried so hard to tame.